Happy Birthday To Me

I have the most amazing people in my life! I have reached a happier and deeper understanding of my life and it is lifechanging.  I do not allow many people into the world of me because the world of me is not for everyone, sometimes it’s not even for me. 

BUT

The few that are apart of my life, make everything worthwhile.  From the down moments to the up moments.  To the everything inbetween. Like being dunked into a pool unawares, the appreciativeness has just enveloped me and I am inlove. 

With love

With you

With the guys and girls in my life 

Appreciative

Overwhelmed

I really do have the best people in my life.  They make the 9 – 5 just a little easier

a ‘huh’ post

Not all the people in your life are good for you 

Depending on how well you know yourself and well you can read people,  most of them will end up being bad for you 

That’s my life 

It has been filled with a whole lot of bad people 

Good for awhile

Had me blinded but longterm they ended up being bad for me 

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I am an open book, have never had a problem telling people my whole life story; because if you don’t listen,  who will? 

That’s the problem 

People don’t open up anymore.  We hide behind our screens and fake smiles.  People don’t get to know you.  Your personality.  Your thoughts,  because all we are a social media junkies. 

Every meal and experience posted online for the likes and hearts.  For the approval of Johnny from Bishop Lavis.  Rather than living in the moment and soaking up life, we end up with our heads down, face illuminated or head up and after the 100th pout post a “having so much fun #livingthebestlife”  selfie

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Instead of living our best life we prip and prep for these lives we live online

Keeping up appearances 

How’s your bank account doing boo? 

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If you have made it to the end of this post, thank you

This was meant to be something else, I got distracted and there was no way to turn it around to the positive post it was meant to be 

I guess the post this was meant to be,  the positive post, will happen tomorrow 

Cherubs Eco Friendly Bubble Bath 

Recently we recieved an Ella Elephant Cherubs Bubble Bath (*retailing at R50) press drop from FreeBees PR & Marketing.


Cherubs, one of South Africa’s most established and trusted baby brands has launched into the Kiddies Bath category with fruity and fun Cherubs Kiddies Bubble Bath!

Cherubs understands care by introducing Cherubs Bubbles a dermatologically endorsed, 2 in 1 wash & foam.

These bubbles come in a value-offering 2 litre bottle with sturdy handles for mom. Kiddies will have tons of Bathtime fun while getting clean in the mild and gentle bubble bath.

Eco-friendly, and lovingly made in South Africa, Cherubs is proud to bring another innovative product to parents, making lives easier, every day.

Bad Mother Guilt

I am a bad mother, and no, this is not a pity party
This is reality
I am a bad mother
I often have bouts of depression and when I’m low, I am deep 6 feet under low
Like nothing and no one can pull me out of it but time
It is in this depressive state where I become quiet and ponder
Mostly about how bad of a mother I am
And not the kind that forgot to give her child the medicine or the one who forgot to wish her kid “Happy Birthday”
I am the kind of bad mother that in a fit of rage, hit her almost 2 year old by lifting her off the ground, the longest 10 seconds of her life before I realised what I was doing
Feeling too bad to cry
The kind of mother who does not spend anytime, at all with her child
Barely any on the car ride home because she’d much prefer to watch her “tabby”
I am honest about my bad-mothering and I often said that although I have not improved dramatically, it does make it easier to have a child that communicate with words and emotions,rather than me trying to decipher what the fuck is going on
I am a bad mother
I feel bad for my child
Always thinking she would be better off if I was dead or in prison
Like she would just live a better life, if for some reason I just did not exist
I would miss her though
I love her with my all and I would die for her
I often run through scenarios in my head; where I try and prep her for anything that might happen
You know?
I don’t know if this is seasonal depression or what but I hate it
It happens so quickly
So unexpectantly
And it stays for a long time
Or maybe it just feels like a long time
“It’s not nice” is a term I use to describe it but it’s honestly the fuckin worst
I am, generally, an introvert and this shit happens and I retreat even more

It reiterates my deepest insecurities and faults

I am a bad mother

This is my reality

I do not feel worthy enough

I suffer from the real Bad Mother Guilt

What If I Make A Mistake Raising You

What if I make a mistake in my raising you?

What if you don’t turn out to be a good human?

Because I know you’re alot like me, I know that I’ll make alot of mistakes

I know you’ll be shy, selfish and have insecurities

I know you’ll be defiant, bossy and have loads of questions

I know, that you too, will make mistakes

But what if I make the biggest one?

The one where I cannot steer you in the right direction?

Where I fail to protect you?

Where I fall short of guidance?

What if I make the worst mistake?

Letting you rule?

For 5 you’re headstrong

I do not hit you

I do not shout at you

Is this a lackluster way of non – discipline?

Should I discipline you?

To give myself a 50 / 50 chance of getting this right?

What if I raise you and you turn out meh?

You have no compassion?

No empathy?

What if I make the mistake as a parent to not raise a good child?

How do I make sure you stay good (ish)?

My child, what if I make a mistake?

 

The Mindless Facebook Generation

So I write this post this morning because one of my Faceboook friends “liked” a picture of my snot tissue

Like, just “liked’ it for the likeness of it

My mom commented, in typical “mom” fashion and told me go see a doctor maar die vriendin #facepalm

Just liked my snot tissue picture

Why?

Are we just scrolling through Facebook in the hopes that we will come across something we like, love or can laugh at so that we can press hold and provide our very short sigted opinion?

Instagram; it makes sense because Instagram was created for the sole purpose of photo sharing

Facebook; is like the personal version of a LinkedIn account – where you are supposed to share and interact with your “friends”, right?

The reason why I am posting this is because I just can’t seem to fathom why you would just blindly “like” a picture of my snot tissues?

It’s not a picture of anything particurlary interesting – it’s snot, literal snot on tissues; at the time of posting it was not even dry

This brings me to the incident that happened on 15 September……over the course of that weekend, I found out that the robbers were still using my phone and simcard; remembering that ALL my accounts were logged in on that phone, I proceeded to type up a Facebook post where I explicitly asked within the first 5 words that “friends” don’t “like” or “comment” because the robbers have my phone etc.

Guess what? Fucktards decided to go and “like” it

Why?

Why is it that we cannot follow a simple instruction?

Is it because we are so numb and dof that it makes “sense” to just hit like as you scroll?

You know, while you’re doing anything else; you might aswell

Don’t want me committing suicide because of a damn like

I just cannot fathom this generation and I am not talking about the YGeneration or Millenials but those that spend endless mindless hours scrolling through Facebook, looking for the latest “news” so that they can share their ever important “opinion”

As if a “like” was a 20c; something we’d so willingly let roll onto the dirty floor, without a second thought

Come on people! Think about what you like, who you like and what you share

Share when it is something of importance, if not to you then atleast something that might intrigue your “friend” but for the love of Pete!, read before you just throw your “likes” around like a stripper @ a strip club

Thanking you kindly,
Your Facebook Friend

I don’t co sleep with my daughter I risk my life

I hate the term “co sleep

Why is it co sleep and not just sleeping

Do you co sleep with your husband? 

Wife? 

Life partner? 

Nee! Jy slaap.  Net so.  

There’s no co anything 

Co parent

Ya

But let’s not try to make everything co seem so taboo

Many people are shocked to hear that my daughter and I share a bed

A sleeping space 

We have; since she was born 

Is it uncomfortable? Of course! Feels like I am playing a game of Tomb Raider

Every fuckin turn is an opportunity to land face first onto the tiled floor

Let me tell you one reason why we share a space (100% sure there is more than 1)……because I cannot, not now or anytime in the near future afford a suitable bed for her

*I am not going to bore you with the details of why I cannot afford a bed or how I’m a single mother and it goes without saying that I can barely afford to poep 

**I’ll let you deduce that on your own time

I will say this though

There are many made-normal terms that I hate

Single Mom &  Co Sleep are the only ones I can think of now because, you know, Murphy’s Law

 The choices I make are solely for the upbringing of my child and if that includes taboo shit like co sleeping,  breastfeeding at 5, cussing or crying infront of the kid; then let me be

We often teach our kids that the one true way to learn anything is to make a mistake first and yet we hold ourselves and other to such high standards and when people fail to meet our expectations we slaughter them. 

Social media

Face to face

This is wrong

That is wrong

You are wrong

If we could only just learn that we are all still growing,  no matter how old we are

The Flying Pan

The Flying Pan is a food delivery business based in Cape Town that was launched in March 2013 in response to a growing need for a healthy and convenient dinner service. Busy lives make meal planning, shopping and cooking difficult to do, and it’s often expensive to cook for one or two persons, not to mention the high volumes of food wastage. We set out to offer a complete dinner time solution, by creating healthy and delicious home-style dishes and delivering them straight to people’s homes or offices. Simply put, our service provides all the benefits of home cooking, without the fuss. Our tagline ‘Rethink Dinner’ encourages people to break the habit of shopping, chopping, cooking and cleaning, and to consider dinner alternatives that work with modern, busy lifestyles.

Healthy Food Delivery

What sets us apart is our absolute dedication to delicious food and convenience. Food is prepared fresh using only high quality ingredients. All of our meals are chef made, and the owner and qualified Head Chef Mathew Hoepner is directly involved in the menu creation and cooking, resulting in exceptionally tasty food. We cater for different lifestyles with our three menus. Our classic menu consists of dinner time favourites from a range of cuisines, and features curries, pastas, Thai dishes, local South African favourites and more. Our low carb menu consists of meals that follow banting guidelines, and suit people who are trying to limit their carb intake. Our vegetarian menu offers a delicious variety of plant based foods, featuring stuffed mushrooms, stuffed peppers, and nutritious Thai and Indian curries made with chickpeas, lentils, tofu, red kidney beans and more. Menus are rotated, meaning that customers won’t receive the same meal in a 8 week period. Prices range from R72 – R80 for large portions with free delivery to our service areas.

Convenient

Not only do we focus on serving great food, but also on making the service as simple and convenient as possible. As such, we have embraced a simple-to-use online ordering system. Customers order food online and make use of multiple online payment method. We also give customers total flexibility in meals ordered which means there are no minimum orders or subscriptions. Customers simply have to get their orders in by Thursday 2pm for the following week’s deliveries.

Corporate and Wedding Catering

The Flying Pan also offers a highly personalised catering service, with a focus on delivering a unique food experience to customers that leaves a lasting impression. Customer requirements and food briefs are carefully considered when creating menus, and this includes paying close attention to the desired ambiance or theme of the event, presentation, and dietary requirements.

5 to 20

This is a post about how, for the month of September, I embarked on a “NO” eating plan

  • 5 days no bread
  • 5 days no sugar
  • 5 days no dairy
  • 5 days no meat

Was it hard? Hell yeah, because it just meant having to prep everything instead of grabbing a snytie brood*

I chose to start on the 1st of September because it made the most sense in terms of tracking the days.

5 days of no bread

Day number one was relatively easy. I had tomato, bacon, provitas and tea for breakfast. For lunch I had a bacon hawaian stir fry and my snackage game was slightly off – morning snack were some shaved carrots and an apple and afternoon snack was la packet of fritos

Day number two was slightly harder because it was a Saturday but I had provitas for brekkie with tea, for lunch I had a roast chicken pie from Woolies with a can of ice tea

Now I love Sundays and Sunday roasts so I had the whole tootie frootie. Also, I made lunch and because I hardly ever cook, went a tad overboard. Chicken, cabbage and carrot salad, potatoes, mixed veg, roast veg, avocado and vegan chicken strips.

Sunday evening I had a cheese sammich which I knew was so wrong but it was so lekker!

Day number 4 seemed to be a bit of a challenge. Day number one of the red river 😑but I prevailed, sort of. I had provitas and avo for brekkie and a pie for lunch. I had quite a lot of fruit for the day and for supper I had a vegan meal that I cooked – cauliflower and bean curry.

Day number 5 was a good day man. We did a photoshoot at work so I was looking reg and for lunch I had my Breyani from The Flying Pan which was so delicious that I wish there was more.

5 days of no sugar

Day one started off with a bang. I had toast with avo on and a grande latte. I had my lunch from The Flying Pan, which is more than filling! Definitely alot more food than I would usually pack in. For supper, it was obvs something my dad made.

The next two days comprised of latte’s and The Flying Pan lunches. Which the entire office was jelly over – the lunch not latte’s.

Day number three was a Saturday and I will admit to having coffee with 1 sugar in and then a lunch cappucino with 1 sugar aswell. I know the idea was to cut out the refined sugar but coffee with milk but no sugar? Might aswell have it black!

The last day I had cake. There you go! No shame. The entire family was over for lunch and I popped over to the shops for cream cake, milktart and a swiss roll. I also had coffee with 1 sugar.

5 Days No Dairy

Day number one was black tea and left over swiss roll. Lunch was homemade veg and some pasta bacon/chicken dish my cousin made and I had some pretzels/strawberries for lunch.

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So I never finished this because my home got burgled in the middle of September but I will say that The Flying Pan was amazing and that my plan  took a slight detour but now that I am back on track, I’ll be enlisting The Flying Pan for all future foodiness.

New Segment on SUPERbusyMOM

Good Morrow Fellow Humanoids!

I am 100% sure you have not noticed my absencce but the reason for that, my absence, that is ; is because I was voileted about 3 weeks back and it has taken some time for me to get my or atleast most of my electronics back and in that time I have not missed blogging as much as I expected to. I am currently typing from my Vodacom 10 inch tab via the bluetooth keyboard. Not long after the aforementioned burglary, I got a cheap phone. A R500 Cell C Fantasy. Sorry to say but the WORST picture quality ever and so ridicously slow that a normal WhatsApp message takes easily 5 min to type. I am planning to upgrade but right now I am not by the financial means to do so. The phone I am looking at getting is R3000 #donationswelcome .

The reason for this post iss because I am doing a 12 part series The Truth Behind Parent Bloggers

This segment will consists of blogs / social media profiles I have or am planning to stalk. BeforeI embark on posting this series I will want to make sure that I am asking the right questions.

If you would like to be apart of this 12 part series, please pop me an email on sbmblogger20@gmail.com