Mommy Behind The Blog | Mandy Lee Miller

This is the 2nd last one for the infamous SUPERbusyMOM2.0 series 🙂

What is your name?

Mandy Lee Miller

How do you identify yourself?

Mommy, wife, daughter sister, friend, writer, mommy blogger, editor in chief, brand consultant

How many kids do you have? Ages? Girl? Boy?

One daughter named Charlotte Rose Miller (Charly), who is 22 months (2 in Feb)


Are you married/single?

Married to Brett for 3 years on 3 May which is our 10 year together anniversary as well.


Stay at home mom or fulltime employed?

Both haha. I am a work at home mom, who manages 5 businesses, and will be expanding on one and adding another in 2016.


When did you start blogging?

2013 when I found out I was pregnant


Why did you start blogging?

As a writer I wanted to document my pregnancy and share my journey with others to “normalise” the not-always-pleasant experience of pregnancy and becoming a parent.


Do you do any sponsored post?






What is your blog about?

It is about the journey of parenthood from the moment you find out you are pregnant, warts and all. The core is my journey, sharing my experiences, my struggles, my relationship with myself and my child; but I also explore other women’s experinces through various series, and enjoy sharing and supporting exceptional family lifestyle focused businesses, with a special focus on mom-owned businesses.


What do you love about being a mommy blogger?

Providing support and comfort to other parents by sharing stories that let them know that they are never alone in what they are experiencing. Being a part of a community of incredibly talented women and writers. Being able to reach thousands of people every month and know that I am having a positive influence in their lives.


As a mother, what is in your bag, like RIGHT NOW?

An empty makeup bag (the makeup is all over the couch – ️thanks Charly), deoderant, a misty empty wallet, 4 pens, a notebook, 2 Huggies nappies, kids sunscreen, a silver plastic car, a Bratz doll and a dummy.


What are the struggles you face with being a mommy blogger?

One of the most difficult things in the world is when you have poured your heart into writing something and it doesn’t reach as many people as you had hoped. The purpose of my blog is to reach out to people, to have them feel less alone, and when I share a story that I feel could really make a difference for people and I just can’t seem to get it out there to those people I really struggle.


Three things you can’t live without?

My family, my phone and the Internet.


What’s a normal day like for you?

Long. Very very long. Charly wakes on average every 90 minutes throughout the night and starts out day around 6am. I start working around 7:30 on Tums 2 Tots Online, client work, emails, South African Sisterhood and Pregnant in Cape Town (PiCT). My mom arrives as backup around 8:30 and keeps C busy while I work til around 11:30 (with a few meltdowns and neeeeeeds mommy and sometimes just cuddle and kiss visits from C). At 11:30 I settle Charly for her nap and then work on my phone for an hour while my mom eats and breathes.

12:30 I eat and have a coffee, sometimes prep food for Charly. I go back to work around 1.

Deal with miss Cs wake up tears around 2:30 (she gets that response to waking from me).

Go back to work til 3:30 when my mom leaves. Spend about haf an hour chatting to and playing with Charly, then we snuggle up on the big bed with our Curious George movie, rice cakes and cold water and we watch that (while I work one handed on my phone, stopping to do the songs and dances at the appropriate times). Hubby gets home around 5 after running errands and cooks dinner while I spend time with Charly (or working depending on deadlines). We eat dinner as a family, Charly and I bath, family story time and Charly bedtime around 7:30. Once she is asleep, I head to our room and – you guessed it – work on my laptop while watching series with hubby until Cs first wakeup around 10:30/11. And the whole process starts over.


Alone time? Do you even know what that is?

Hahahahahahahahaha. No idea what that is at all. I dot get to bath alone or sleep alone or go to the bathroom alone. I am occasionally alone in a room when I work, though never for very long. Every few months I get a massage because sleeping with a very active toddler does all kind of fun things to my neck and back.


Words of wisdom?

You won’t actually die from lack of sleep.

There is always ALWAYS somebody going through the same or very similar things as you are when you are a parent – you are not alone. You are a Supermommy!!

WRT blogging – we all struggle with numbers, we all feel like we aren’t good enough, we all consider stopping every other week. If you keep going back to the reason you started your blog in the first place, you will always be a success.


Goals for 2016?

Balance. Growth. Health. And possibly baby number 2.


What’s your favourite activity to do with your child/children?

Reading. I LOVE how much she loves books. I love that her vocabulary is on track to be bigger than mine. I love that she has such an amazing memory that she can “read” many of them herself, but that she also has such an incredible imagination that she can nake up her own stories when it suits her.


Where did you grow up? 

Cape Town


How did you come up with your blog name?

I was pregnant – in Cape Town :,D I added “& ever after” when I relaunched in May and expanded it from just a personal diary to include the other facets.


Tell us something that NO ONE else knows about you?

As a “too honest” blogger, I’m not actually sure there is anything that nobody knows about me… Maybe… I have dermographism, which essentially means you can write on my skin with your nail or pretty much anything and then read what you wrote. Lol. It’s incredibly rare affecting only about 4% of the population; and it’s not dangerous or contagious at all.

Basically my skin has an allergic reaction even without introducing an allergen. It is aggravated by stress and anxiety and the welts or writing disappear after about 10 minutes.


And lastly, tell us how becoming a mother has changed you……..

It changed every single thing about me, every aspect of my being. It has made me more afraid than I have ever been; from the minute I found out I was pregnant, her life became bigger than mine and the fear of ever having her threatened, hurt or lost became a core part of who I am now. At the same time, I became braver than I have ever been; I would do anything to protect her or make her proud. That includes introducing huge change into my life which I had avoided at all costs until then – I resigned from a stressful position that I felt threatened my pregnancy, I started my own business, I started my blog, I have faced fears and hurts from my past to be better and stronger for her and I bought a magazine so that I could follow my passion and hopefully teach her to do the same.


PLEASE go over and show Mandy-Lee some MAJOR December LOVE 🙂

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& her social media links………..let’s do one last stalk before the year ends 🙂









This post will be short & sweet

A revelation o f sorts

Today I had a look into a full length mirror

At myself

The fat me I am not able to see in my basic ass mirror

A size 14

One child

27 years old

I saw all my bodily imperfections

“Is this what I look like?”

“Is this what you all see when you look at me?”

I know my face is fat and I know I need to lose a few, but that glimpse, that momentary glimpse was all I needed, internally, to lose my fuckin shit

I went batshit crazy, in my head, silently

I had a revelation

Things bulging and bouncing when I wasn’t moving an inch

Things hanging where they should be taunt but not tight

I should look like what I think I should but I should not look like this

I should be proud of what I look  like naked but even I wouldn’t want to sleep with myself

I was disgusted

I am disgusted

I need to make a change

This is not one of those “I will diet for the first week of January 2016”

This is an realisation

My naked body in a full length mirror is fuckin revolting & I am not looking for sympathy

I am looking for you to recognize that this is the first time I have seen myself naked, completely

I wanted to throw something at that mirror

To crack it

Clearly with a belly so big, so sucking in is not working

Something needs to happen

Something needs to change

I have to stick to my words

I have gotten much bigger than what I was a year ago and even though I might never be as pretty as I want or as thin as I want ; I know I can start somewhere


Not so much of a rant post but thanx for reading


Here’s a Christmas tree for the time I’ve wasted 🙂



GhostWriter | A Poem For Sam From Me

Sam wanted to be ravaged
She’d been alone for too long
She needed someone to pull her hair and bite her neck
She craved a manly, rugged touch
She wanted nothing more than to be taken from the back
To the back
Pulled into a dark abyss where fantasy was as she imagined
She needed to be punished
For what? She did not know
She needed to be choked as she came
Sam needed to be ravaged
She was closed off
She was closed down
Sam needed to be looked at
Sam needed to be explored
She had a desire for the unwanted
The unhinged
To be lustfully taken
Forcefully taken
A kiss so rare and dangerous that even she would run scared
Sam needed to become unhinged
She needed to be free
Embodied with yours
Sam wanted your mouth to engulf her most intimate parts
She wanted you to become one with her
She needed you to stay there
Stay here
Sam craved your attention
She sought your lonely heart
Your wandering hands
Sam needed you to be her
She needed you to be her
Sam wanted you to be him
She wanted you to be him
She loathed what you did to her
She loved how you did it to her
She no longer wanted anyone else
She craved your kisses
She longed for your eyes
Sam was sold
On you
For you
Sam was sold
Into this fanatasy
Still alone
Still lonely
Sam was sold
You bought a lonely heart
You bought a sad heart
You bought Sam
Sam needed to be ravaged
Sam wanted to be ravaged
But not hurt

SUPERbusyMOM2.0 gets featured | What’s in her gym bag #whatgymbag

Ladies & Gents,

This is my 3rd feature for the year and I am fockin chuffed man 🙂 Seriously, it’s so awesome to give back to the community and then to get some great feedback sure doesn’t hurt

Anyway………enough bitching


Here’s the link 🙂

HipStylerBlog |What’s in Athena’s Gym Bag?

2015 | Year End Goal

Good Morning People 🙂


Hope ya’ll are well
Reason for this “early” morning post is because it is 18 days until the end of the year…….
18 days to reach my goal of 3000 blog hits
That’s where you come in…….you view……you share……i reach my goal
Simple right?
Well…..go on then


SUPERbusyMOM2.0 | The Year Ahead

As the “owner” of the SUPERbusyMOM2.0 blog, there have been some things happening in the background. 2016 is going to be a more content productive blog ; well I hope so 😉

For the better part of 2016, I would like to set up a SUPERbusyMOM2.0 podcast and with that expand the reach of SUPERbusyMOM2.0


I am also EXTREMELY interested in social experiments
I have watched a few Youtube videos and I would like to do these experiments on the streets of Cape Town


Now, what I’ll need is most probably a camera man
Willing participants
Someone who knows how I go about setting this all up


Guess I’ll just POP in :)

So, as a mommy blogger; I have not been blogging much

I just have no content ; nothing and I refuse to spit out random spew to please the masses

Now, what I meant by “masses”; was all 3 of you that even bother to read the blog

Hell, I could be over here cursing and being filthy as fuck and no one would even care…..would ya?

This post is just to say that I have NOT forgotten about you, yes, all 3 of you who are skimming over this post J

I am still here

I am still alive

I am just busy and unfortunately, my blog is not TOP priority right now………….and that’s ok 🙂



On that note, I would like to know ONE thing you would like to achieve in 2016…..and I will NOT accept anything about dieting etc

Mine? Getting my driver’s license



So…..I spoke to my parents

So, I spoke to my parents the other day and I cried
Not snot and trane ; but there were tears and there were feelings
Besides the fact that I have this outer wall that I never let down because I, in fact, don’t want people to know /see/hurt the real me
I don’t want people to see my past
Yes, I know……….sad
Thing is, with my blog. It’s fine. It’s ok
The wall? Your screen or however you’re viewing this post
You don’t get to see me
I could sit here, and type out my pain, my shame
I could type it out and cry it out but you would just sympathise with me
You might even shed a tear but you will NOT actually get to experience the me that I really am
The small bits and pieces that I allow to seep through the cracks are in no way who I really am or what I have to offer
Yes, the blog is raw and honest and sometimes, just downright fuckin vile but you don’t see it
It still gets photoshopped
It still gets tweaked
Posts still get pushed out
Meeting the demand
So, I spoke to my parents
More like they spoke
My mother spoke, and my father just nodded in agreement
I needed it
Not to cry but to cry
I just needed to cry for my frustration and unknown pain
My blog will not win any awards
My blog will always be vile and disgusting
My blog will always be me
And I am far from perfect
I am far from alright
But I am ok
I am alive
and I am thankful

I might not be ok now, but I will be ok soon
Next week
Next year
I will be ok
I will be ok
I will be ok……………

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Mommy Behind The Blog | Charlotte Lesli Coetzee Nortje

What is your name?

Hi my name is Charlotte Lesli Coetzee Nortje. I have 2 surnames because my one daughter is Coetzee and my husband and other daughter is Nortje. I felt I needed to keep my old one when I got married so that my daughter and I still share a name, also she asked me not to change it.


How do you identify yourself?

I wear many hats as most moms do, so when it comes to identifying myself I use the following terms: Christian, wife, mother, dietitian, nurse, chef, event planner, financial manager, musician, reader, writer, personal assistant, home educator, blogger, personal shopper, PTA mom, dog lover, coffee addict and so much more.

How many kids do you have? Ages? Girl? Boy?

I often tell people that I have 4 children. My husband, my daughters and dog. My first born is Amandalynn who just turned 9 in June, she is well mannered little lady most of the days but lately she has been stepping into the tween stage of life and her attitude and having an answer for everything is driving us crazy. My second child Lorelai was 5 in January and she is the wild child in the family. Constantly injuring one of her eyes by running into funny things and costing me money. My last child is a fur baby called Kayla she is about 5 months old and spoilt rotten.



Are you married/single?

I am married to an amazing man who loves his children more than he loves me most days.


Stay at home mom or fulltime employed?

I am a little bit if both. I work half day as a personal assistant and I tend to say that my real job starts when I get home at 14:00 in the afternoons. I get to drive kids to and from extra-murals, attend school and church meetings while still trying to get dinner on the table by 18:30.

When did you start blogging?

I started blogging when I came back from maternity leave in 2010.

Why did you start blogging?

I scrapbooked every minute of her life, but at that stage I was still working fulltime, Hannes was working 2 jobs and the only time I had to capture their memories was at work. I started my first blogged and back in those days I was called Scaredmom. After a couple of years I started a new blog called The Stilettomum because I was no longer scared of being a mom and because I love stilettos.

Do you do any sponsored post?

I often do sponsored posts. Press releases has a separate page so the will never end up in the inbox of my readers, but with sponsored post I try and make it personal or at least give my honest opinion.


I haven’t had a competition on my blog in ages. But it is the best feeling in the world to be able to share with your followers.

What is your blog about?

My blog is about my life and everything my family gets up to and things that affect my life and my children’s lives. In a nutshell, it is Parenting, lifestyle with a bit of crazy and maintenance.

What do you love about being a mommy blogger?

Everything!!! The friends I have made IRL and online. My day is not complete if I did not read about someone’s family.

As a mother, what is in your bag, like RIGHT NOW?

Do you really want the answer to this? Here goes: Old train tickets, ID, Siggies, Tissues, random slips, My mother’s new phone, Sweets, sweet wrappers, hat, scarf, water, jersey, various medications, Nicknaks open and closed, tampons, hard drive, water, pens, keys, hair bands, etc.. It is a big mess.

What are the struggles you face with being a mommy blogger?

Not to get caught up with what the other moms are doing. Being my own “blogger” and not trying to compete or compare myself to other mommy bloggers.

Three things you can’t live without?




What’s a normal day like for you?

A normal day for me is long.

06:05          I drop Hannes at the station and then I go back home.

06:10          Kids have porridge and we all get dressed for school. I clean up if Kayla decided waiting till morning to go pee would not work for her, make coffee and lunches, put the dog out and make sure she has food and water for the day.

06:50          (most days only by 07:20) We leave the house. I drop Amandalynn and Lorelai at school and then head to the station to catch my train.

08:00          My working day starts and I manage 3 Advocates days and lives.

13:08          Catch a train back home.

14:00          Collect Amandalynn from my Gran and drop her at school for Hockey practise.

14:10          Pick up Lorelai and go to the shop for anything I think we might need.

14:40          Get home, let the dog in, and clean up whatever doggy mess I might have missed in the morning. Have a cup of coffee and cigarette. Have the dog jump all over and on top of me. Unpack shopping, realise I do not have half of what we actually needed and make a mental list.

15:15          Collect Amandalynn at Hockey practise, go to the shop again and forget half the stuff we actually need. Make a mental note to make and actual note tomorrow.

16:00          Home again. Have another cup of coffee, check and help Amandalynn with homework while carrying my dog like a baby because she wants to be picked up (it’s like having another baby). Talk about their day and just sort of take time to relax with them.

17:00          Start with dinner and cleaning up around the house, do washing.

17:30          Collect either Tara or Liesel’ kids from cherche.

17:35          Feed the children I just picked up and then continue with dinner and cleaning while trying to keep kids outside.

17:45          Go back to school to collect the friends kids who I did not collect earlier. (this happens about once a week).

17:50          Get back home feed kids who were just collected and continue with previous task until their parents collect them, then I pause cleaning to have coffee with said parents.

18:30          Collect Hannes from station.

19:00          Eat dinner as a family.

19:20          While kids bath, I have more coffee (yes I am addicted) and sort out washing that I washed the afternoon or only start with washing. Get kids sorted for the next day and maybe do more cleaning.

20:30          Try and get kids into bed.

20:45          Have a shower, watch a movie and chill until sleep time.

Alone time? Do you even know what that is?

I am lucky because I have loads of alone time. My husband and I both have this. My kids are older so it is much easier to have this now. We get to sleep in on a weekends, lounge outside while reading a book or having a braai with friends. My children are very independent so tell will not come and ask me stupid questions and about 2 years ago they stopped following me into the toilet.

Words of wisdom?

Add salt to everything… or rather more correctly take everything with a pinch or bucket of salt. Decide on what kind of parent you want to be and then try it. If it works for you great if it doesn’t, change it. I have changed the way I parent a couple of times over the last 9 years and now I think I have a way that works for me and my family.

Goals for 2016?

Move; Move; Have a baby; Move; Move; Buy another car.

What’s your favourite activity to do with your child/children?

Baking. We bake a lot in our house and the kids love it. I do not mind the mess, so when they are having fun and messing all over that it the time I enjoy the most.

Where did you grow up?

I grew up 10 metres away from where I live now. 4 years ago my parents built me a house on their property so I never had to move far.

How did you come up with your blog name?

Actually I did not come up with a name on my own, Coral-Leigh the Cupcakemummy helped me with it. I have a shoe addiction, I love platforms and in all colours and styles. I was and sometimes can be seen at kids parties or on farms in 6inch heals.

Tell us something that NO ONE else knows about you?

I have a very open blog so there is not much or if anything that NO ONE else knows about me. I can promise you whatever I list here at least 3 of my friends will text me to let me know they knew this already. So what I think NO ONE knows about the fact that I am drawing a blank.

And lastly, tell us how becoming a mother has changed you……..

It has changed my life completely. I love being a mother and I will never ever want to change a thing. If I could I would stop my children from ageing so that I can be a mom to little ones just a while longer.

And because I know you want to stalk the beautiful Charlotte, below are her social media links 🙂






Dating Dilemma


So, I have been single for about 2 years and I have a daughter
In recent months, my mother has been on my case to find someone. The more I try and convince this lady, that I am happy and that I am not looking, the more she persists.

This weekend:
Mother: What happens if someone named David comes up to you and says he in interested in you?
Me: *most skeptical look on this side of the world* Why does his name have to be David?
Mother: Just answer the question!
Me: But why David? Is that like the ideal name?
Mother: Agh, it’s just the first name I thought of
Me: I’ll probably say “NO, THANK YOU”
Mother: *gives me the side eye*
Me: Well, if it happens, I hope that you’ll walk away
Mother: Ya, I will. That man must just break through your stubbornness!
Me: I’m not stubborn!
cue laughter

Also, my mother has been going to the same hairdresser for years, and just this past weekend, even the hairdresser wanted to know if I was still single.

My colleagues, also believe that I should just get surprised with a man. No blind date set ups. Just “spontaneous”

Ya right!