Ghost Writer | Value

I have no value
I am no value
I do not value myself
Why am I saying this?
Why am I being so mean?
Truth
Honesty
I do not value myself to see my beauty
I do not value myself to accept my flaws
I call myself fat and poke fun at myself because it is easier
Easier
I act dumb because it is easier than always having to provide intellectual conversation
Easier
I go with the flow because it is easier than saying “No”
Easier
I degrade myself because I don’t value myself
I don’t think I’m worth it, so why should you
I act like a fool because I don’t mind being the playful dumb one of the group
I don’t value myself enough to see the beauty in my scars
I always meet a compliment with a “but” instead of a courteous “thank you”
I use big words so that people think I have substance when really, I feel like I add nothing to the conversation
I feel pitied, because I can’t understand why anyone would be willing to be seen with me
I do not value myself
Easier
I do not see the worth in me
I do not see the worth in this life
In this soul
In this body
I don’t want to be dumb
I want to have my good days
I want to have my bad days
I want to be and act as smart as I am because I am fuckin brilliant!
I want to be a me I could be proud of
I want to be a me my child could be proud of
I want to be a me
Me
Not easy
Valued
Worthy
Me

Mommy Behind The Blog | Melanie Blignaut

What is your name? Melanie

How do you identify yourself? As a sleep-deprived, chocolate-craving, Jesus-following, homeschooling mom.

How many kids do you have? Ages? Girl? Boy? Two daughters. My eldest is five
(going on 15) and the youngest is almost three.

Are you married/single? Married, six years and counting, to my best friend.

Stay at home mom or fulltime employed? I teach preschool drama once a week, and have a couple of students I tutor in the evenings. I’ve recently started homeschooling the girls.

When did you start blogging? I started Wind in a Letterbox at the beginning of 2014.

Why did you start blogging? Mainly to stay sane and cope with sleep-deprivation and two children in nappies. I also wanted to encourage other moms.

Do you do any sponsored post? No, but I might if I think it’s a good fit for my blog.

Competitions? Only one so far.

What is your blog about? My faith and how that affects my marriage, my parenting and how I live my life. I also write about homeschooling and crafts.

What do you love about being a mommy blogger? I think the mommy blogging community is fantastic and generally very supportive of one another.

As a mother, what is in your bag, like RIGHT NOW? My purse, a tube of Labello, some cherry Zam-Buk, a flash drive, an empty sunglasses case, several old shopping lists, a pen, some loose change, tissues, a notebook, a pen, tampons, hand lotion, wet wipes, an empty Jelly Tots packet and a chocolate bar that I bought for my husband (and am trying very hard to resist eating before he gets home!).

What are the struggles you face with being a mommy blogger? Finding the time to blog with two children.

Three things you can’t live without? My contact lenses. Lip balm. A bra.

What’s a normal day like for you? Wake up with “Mommy. Mommy! MOMMY!” before my alarm goes off. Make coffee for my husband, and breakfast for my youngest. Have some tea, shower, have my devotion, make breakfast for my eldest (and youngest, again). Get them dressed. Do school. Put my youngest down for a nap. Work on the computer while my eldest plays. Feed the girls. Try not to fall asleep. Make supper. Bath the girls, put them to bed, think about what work I should do. Ignore the work and spend time with Hubby, or read, or sleep early.

Alone time? Do you even know what that is? I get to shower without an audience these days, and sometimes I get to use the toilet by myself. Woohoo!

Words of wisdom? Have that last piece of chocolate. You only live once.

Goals for 2016? I haven’t thought that far ahead. 🙂

What’s your favourite activity to do with your child/children? We love to craft. Consequently, there’s a permanent sheen of glitter coating everything in our house.

Where did you grow up? Edenvale, Gauteng.

How did you come up with your blog name? I love the Beatles. My blog’s name comes from the song ‘Across the Universe’.

Tell us something that NO ONE else knows about you? Something NO ONE knows? That’s hard. Hmm. Okay. I don’t floss every day. (Don’t tell my dentist.)

And lastly, tell us how becoming a mother has changed you…….. I’ve learned that I’m nowhere near as patient as I thought I was. I’ve learned how little I actually know about anything. I’ve learned how much love a heart can hold. I’ve learned sleep-deprivation will not actually kill you, though it might make you crazy.

The gorgeous Melanie & Family 🙂

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Single Mother | Single Daughter | From My Heart To Yours

I write this for my daughter

 

I write this for my single mother

 

I write this for you

 

I write this for me

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I write this on behalf of all those single mothers

The ones who struggle

The ones who cry at night

The ones who care

The ones who love

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Where are you Father?

Your child cries for you

Where are you Father?

You’re missing out

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My first words

My first step

My first kiss

My first breath

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Where are you Father?

You’re missing out

Not around to show me what a man is

Not around to show me how I am suppose to be treated

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Where are you Father?

I lay here, broken & confused

Mother says it’s not my fault

That I’m perfect & loved

Mother says not to cry

That I’m to be brave and strong

Mother says I’m not to blame

I must face this head on

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Where are you Father?

When I needed you most?

When my first boy crush kissed my cheek

When I need a strong reassuring hug

Where are you Father?

When all I wanted was a dad?

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Here I stand staring at the world, moms & dads

She’s my mom & dad

Where are you Father?

Were you ever here?

Here I stand staring at the wall, hoping for a shove

Over the edge

Into abyss

Where are you Father?

When it all became a little too much for mother ; where were you?

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No one to hold her hand

We held each other

No one to wipe my tears

She used her satin shirt

No one to carry me to bed

She flung me over her tired overburdened shoulders

No one to tell me it would be ok, even when it wouldn’t

She used her last breath

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Where were you Father?

When I needed to be clothed?

Where were you Father?

When I needed to be fed?

Where were you Father?

For those late nights when I fell ill?

For those busy days of concerts & running around?

Where were you Father?

For the best times & the worst?

Where were you Father when all I wanted was you?

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What’s a dad?

She is my mom & dad

What is strength?

She is my strength

What is a parent?

A tired, overburdened, stressed but still-there parent

A parent is my mother

Alone

Scared

She never left me

She stayed

She loved me

She cared for me even when all she wanted to do was give up

She carried on

She knew I looked up to her

She stayed

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Where were you Father?

Where were you when she stayed?

Ladies & Gents

I’ve been thinking. People have been saying I look 5 – 6 years younger than what I actually am & then I had a looksie in the mirror today and I do look as young as people say…..so, it’s your turn to guess my age. Feel free to stalk me on Athena Japhta | Facebook or Athena Japhta | Instagram or any other site you get to find my most recent pics on 🙂

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Mommy Behind The Blog | Lindsay Thomas

What is your name?

Lindsay – Leigh Thomas

How do you identify yourself?

Wife, Mother, Business Owner (Love Made Me) and aspiring Mom Blogger

How many kids do you have? Ages? Girl? Boy?

I have 2 boisterous boys, Daniyal (6) and Joshuah (2)

Are you married/single?

Married

Stay at home mom or fulltime employed?

I wish I was a WAHM but for now I’m a fulltime employed Mom in the Private Healthcare Industry and after 4pm I’m a WAHM.

When did you start blogging?

I wrote my first blog post in on 31 July 2014 on “Being a Mom of 2”

Why did you start blogging?

I blog to learn, I blog to connect, Lastly blog to share and heal

Do you do any sponsored post?

Yes I have done a few

Competitions?

Yip, everyone loves a competition and I enjoy sharing awesome goodies

I mean, who doesn’t LOVE to win something

What is your blog about?

I try and share the good, the tough and the fun side of life and parenting while trying to embrace my lumps, bumps and wonderful post baby body. Having kids has changed every aspect of my life, and changed my body in so many ways but I think I’m rocking my Mom rolls proudly.

What do you love about being a mommy blogger?

Its amazing how your support circle and knowledge base grows when you enter this world. I have met some awesome bloggers that I’ve been following for a few years which has been great. I’ve been fortunate enough to liaise with brands I personally support and recommend, and I’ve made a few new friends along the way.

As a mother, what is in your bag, like RIGHT NOW?

Wet wipes, a sock, 3 Oatees, purse, lipstick, tissues and a mirror

What are the struggles you face with being a mommy blogger?

Time, or the lack thereof. Life just happens way too fast for me to cope with sometimes. I say I’m a aspiring Mom Blogger as I honestly don’t feel as though I’m “meeting the standards”. There’s a lot of pressure out there, with very competitive Mom bloggers, with brands and with followers. I don’t want to pop out posts just for the sake of having something there, but I do admire those Mom bloggers who are able to do this.

I want my posts to be appropriate to me, my life, where we’re at.  Unlike many other bloggers, I don’t have a background in PR / Journalism / Writing.

I’m me, and that’s all I can be. I speak to other Moms who are just like me.

Three things you can’t live without?

My Husband, my Boys and probably my family (I’m very family orientated, I need to have my Parents and Siblings and niece and nephew around me)

What’s a normal day like for you?

Alarm goes off at 4:55am and I get my day started, I get done for work, get the lunches and clothes ready and then I hit the road at 6:30am. I start my day job at 7:30am and end at 4pm. I work in the Property Management Department for a Private Healthcare Group. Then I rush off to collect the boys from school, get home, cook, clean, do washing, fit in some QT with the kids, do supper, bath and bed time. Once boys are down I start with orders which are pending on my side and inbetween this, spend QT with the Hubby. Eventually we roll into bed anywhere between 10 and 11pm.

Alone time? Do you even know what that is?

Oh, the 20min shower I have in the morning. Does that count? Gone are the days where I get to go to the hairdresser and just sit and relax or have my nails done regularly or even go to the bathroom with the door closed.

Words of wisdom?

Be you!

Learn to love and embrace who you are and not who you think you should be.  You were beautifully and wonderfully made.

Goals for 2016?

Grow my little business

Get back into shape

Focus on my blog

What’s your favourite activity to do with your child/children?

This would definitely have to be any arts / crafts / DIY related anything. I love getting creative with them. Be it by painting, drawing or decorating cupcakes.

Where did you grow up?

Predominantly in Cape Town but our family were missionaries, so we travelled a bit throughout Cape Town, in Stilfontein, and later Uzbekhistan (yip you heard correct).

How did you come up with your blog name?

After having kids it sort of just happened

Tell us something that NO ONE else knows about you?

I wish I was a ballerina

And lastly, tell us how becoming a mother has changed you…

Where do I begin? Let me summarize, a few of the things which I have had to learn and accept which have made me a better Mom to my boys.

Raising a child, whether on your own or with your partner is always hard work, no matter your age, race, religious beliefs. We are all in this together, so learn to stand together and support those who need it. It really takes a village to raise a child. Embrace yours. Even Superman needed someone. I definitely rely on my support system. Being independent doesn’t mean you have to do it on your own. Some of the most awesome friends I have made was via a Pampers Mom chat group and 7 years later and we’re still going strong.

Time flies

One day you’re pregnant and the next you’re potty training. Don’t sweat the small stuff, live in the moment and enjoy the few minutes you have with your child. It took me a few years to accept this but now that I have, life has been better.

Patience

I’m not the most patient person in the world, but raising another human being definitely tests your patience levels. Learn to breath, say “This too shall pass” often and if all else fails, fake it till you learn it.

Having children takes a lot of sacrifice

You are no longer in control and that is fine. Accept that these little humans take your time, your energy, your money, your freedom, your privacy and your bed. Enjoy it, soon they won’t want to be around you (you know, its so uncool to like your parents). Just enjoy the journey, no matter how challenging the ride.

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Mommy Behind The Blog | Eleanor Douglas – Meyers

What is your name?

Eleanor Douglas-Meyers

How do you identify yourself?

Craft obsessed, working mother, wife, small business owner and blogger

How many kids do you have? Ages? Girl? Boy?

I have a two-year-old boy named Aidan and an angel baby named Logan

Are you married/single?

Married

Stay at home mom or fulltime employed?

I like to think I have the best of both worlds: I do newspaper design and layout Monday to Wednesday and I work from home making handmade kids accessories on Thursdays and Fridays for my business oh!boy kids accessories and creating for a gifting business I run with a friend called Gifts&Goodies

When did you start blogging?

I think it is five years now, but I only recently started “taking it seriously”

Why did you start blogging?

I was working as a journalist at the time and also blogged for the publication I was working for, I loved the blogging thing, but was not allowed to use my “own voice” so I started JustEllaBella as an outlet of sorts.

Do you do any sponsored post?

I do, when they come up and match my blog I definitely do them.

Competitions?

YES! My readers love them so I have been known to even buy/make my own prizes

What is your blog about?

It’s just a personal blog that touches on life experiences, crafts, with some posts on child loss

What do you love about being a mommy blogger?

The people my blog has introduced me to, especially on the SA mommy blogger network

As a mother, what is in your bag, like RIGHT NOW?

Hand sanitiser, wipes and busy bags (These quiet toys I make in cloth bags) and I’m willing to bet there are raisins in there for him to snack on too

What are the struggles you face with being a mommy blogger?

Not feeling “good enough” like why would people want to read what I have to say.

Also getting intimidated by all the other blogs out there, I have to keep reminding myself that I need to stick to my guns and do me.

Three things you can’t live without?

My phone

Hair clips

Sweet treats – sad as I’m insulin resistant

What’s a normal day like for you?

Mon-Wed… I get up at an ungodly hour, to shower and hand son over to my mom, in car to work by 6.15, get to work after  7 (my detective husband starts then and we live “out of town”) I then usually pull out the laptop and blog till the rest of the workforce arrives.

Back home hubby cooks (it’s his hobby and partially why I can’t lose weight) while I hang with lil one. After supper and some tv, I bath Aidy, then while I sort out packed lunches for three of us it’s dad and son time.

Thur-Fri… I drop son off at school myself then I either do some sewing for Oh!Boy or create for Gifts&Goodies (depending on orders). Pick up Aidy at 12 and juggle the day…I cook on these days…

I try to fit exercise in at least every second day.

Alone time? Do you even know what that is?

That’s sadly what I get in the office before anyone else arrives, oh and on Saturday mornings I wake up extra early so the boys are still asleep and I can do and watch whatever I want

Words of wisdom?

Uhm…. Do you! Seriously life is not a competition and death comes quickly, no use chasing a trophy you don’t even want, so do what makes you happy, oh and smile at strangers it will either make their day or annoy them, either way, you win.

Goals for 2016?

This year I kind of redid my life, quit my job, started online studies, started a business, attempting exercise and healthy eating again… honestly think 2016 will be a year of settling in and just enjoying my little family

What’s your favourite activity to do with your child/children?

CRAFTING and BAKING!!! I have a two year old that goes into a craft store and says things like “we must buy these eyes and make monsters” or explains that you need to “tap the eggy to open”

Where did you grow up?

Uitenhage, Eastern Cape

How did you come up with your blog name?

I have a friend who calls me ella bella and since my blog doesn’t have a single focus I thought JustEllaBella

Tell us something that NO ONE else knows about you?

I’m so open about myself I can’t think of anything except the fact that I never wanted to have a kid, the idea of pregnancy and having a human in my belly really freaked me  out.

And lastly, tell us how becoming a mother has changed you……..

Well for one I can do most anything with one hand now hehehe

I also appreciate my time more because kids really grow so fast, you blink and you miss a lifetime

The beautiful Eleanor aka Ella and family 🙂

 

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Ghost Writer | The Truth

I am a horrible parent. And not in the usual “I shouted at my child and now regret it”. More like “I told my child to JUST GO and I proceeded to exit through the other door”. Ended up pretend sleeping in the car. It’s like I’m 16 again. I can’t get my way and I storm the fuck out! I am a horrible parent. I am a single parent. I don’t regret anything. I don’t wish my child away. But this is the truth. This is my truth. I never wanted this life. I never thought I would be this un-level headed. I should know better. Especially now. It’s been years. Why am I not a good parent? Alone we’re perfect. But just add these other fuckers in and BOOM 💣, it’s like a freakin bomb! I am a horrible parent. I’m scaring my child. For life. How do I undo it? Undo me? I show my child love. I show my child care. But those moments I snap have a much bigger and long lasting impact than all those other times I loved my child. I love my child. I don’t regret my child. I would not change my world for anything or anyone at all. I would be lost without my child. My child is my life. I am me because of my child. But how do I become a better version of this horrible parent self,for my child?

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Mommy Behind The Blog | Maz

That’s what she is known as….seriously. I don’t know her by any other name 🙂

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What is your name? Mariza, but everyone knows me as Maz.

How do you identify yourself? Semi-human

How many kids do you have? Ages? Girl? Boy? I have two gorgeous kids, Mikayla Rose is 4 and Knox is 8 months old.

Are you married/single? Happily married!

Stay at home mom or fulltime employed? Fulltime employed

When did you start blogging? September 2014

Why did you start blogging? I did an interview on being a mom with tattoos, and I just felt like I had so much more to say. It is also a form of therapy to me, and it was a lovely way to document my second pregnancy.

Do you do any sponsored post? Every now and then – I am very picky when it comes to brands that I am willing to work with.

Competitions? Yes, I love hosting competitions and do about one a week – it’s nice to give back to your readers.

What is your blog about? It is about embracing our differences, it is about parenting, real-life struggles, triumphs – so much. It is whatever I want it to be on any given day, to be honest.

What do you love about being a mommy blogger? The fact that my readers are so loyal, and they know exactly what I am going through. I love getting e-mails from moms who are either going through the same thing as me or who I have helped in some way. I like that it is not a bitchy community, but that we help each other and from friendships amongst each other.

As a mother, what is in your bag, like RIGHT NOW? In my handbag? Wet wipes (of course), make-up bag, wallet, a Squish fruit juicy bag, one of the rocks Mikayla picked up (it is magical), a couple of dummies, my iPhone and a spare charger, lip balm, sunscreen, sunglasses, a pen and notebook, a sewing kit with pins and spare button, mints, hand lotion and a gift from my cat – I literally just found a lizard tail in my bag… OMG.

What are the struggles you face with being a mommy blogger? Not being taken seriously, I feel brands expect us to do everything for free? Also, finding a balance between spending time with my family, working and blogging. There is just not enough time!

Three things you can’t live without? Coffee, Family and Lists.

What’s a normal day like for you? I wake up at 5am, and if Knox is still asleep I slip away to go to gym or do some yoga in the living room. At about 6:15 Knox will wake up and I will give him his bottle – then hubby wakes up and cuddle with him while I have a shower. My husband will then wake my daughter up for school and make us breakfast while Knox watches me get ready or chills with his sister. We do the usual, have breakfast, pack school lunches, get everyone dressed, pack school bag, pack baby bag… at about 7:45am I load Knox and all of his stuff in my car and drop him off at his gran for the day while I go off to work. At work I start my day with more coffee, reading and responding to e-mails, having meetings, doing research, sketching, choosing and sourcing fabrics and trims, networking, etc. I finally get to go home at 5pm, and I will have my hubby and kids waiting for me there ♥. It is the best feeling to walk through those doors after a long day… I then give Knox his supper and my husband and I will take turns cooking. I spend time with the kids until supper is ready. We all eat together, after that I will run the kids’ bath. After their baths we read them a bedtime story and Mikayla goes to sleep. Knox stays up for a bit longer… We then pack the dishwasher, sort out the clothes and tidy up. Knox then has a bottle and he will fall asleep in my arms on the couch – hubby and I then watch our favourite series together – that is how we wind down. We then go off to sleep, hoping that the kids sleep through the night!!

Alone time? Do you even know what that is? Yeah, I don’t really get it when moms say they do not have time for themselves. Sure, it is not easy – but it is your responsibility to make time. It is not impossible… My idea of alone time is a long, hot bubble bath with candles and a good book after the kids have gone to bed ♥

Words of wisdom? With every rainfall comes a brighter day.

Goals for 2016? To go on more family adventures!

What’s your favourite activity to do with your child/children? I love taking Mikayla on mommy & daughter dates, and I love lying on the couch with Knox sleeping on my chest. I love cuddling with them, having movie nights, having picnics in the sun… so many happy and wonderful moments.

Where did you grow up? On a farm near a small town called Upington.

How did you come up with your blog name? My favourite thing (caffeine) and Mikayla’s (fairydust).

Tell us something that NO ONE else knows about you? My life is an open book! Um…. My natural hair colour is platinum blonde?

And lastly, tell us how becoming a mother has changed you…….. It is impossible to put into words. Absolutely impossible…. What I can tell you is that it saved my life. That it made me a better person in more ways than you can ever image and it has filled my heart with love and joy. It has made me love my husband more, it has made me more afraid of the world, it has made me see the beauty in life and I finally see time for what it is.

 

The beautiful Maz & her kids

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