The Minder Experiment | Guy One

Coz it’s Man – Tinder 🙂


What kind of phone do you have?

IPhone 5

How old are you?


Employed or studying?

Unemployed…about to start an internship soon

Have you ever been married?

No I have not

If you have answered NO to the above, what are your views on marriage?

It should be a monotonous relationship where two individuals complement each other in all things abstract and physically

What do you do in your free time?

I surf the web, read book, play xbox, sometimes contemplate the complexities of the universe (i.e go for a drive), catch up on news

How would you describe your personality?

Objective with a sense of humour

What is your biggest flaw?

I tend to overthink things

Are you a parent?

No I am not

Why Tinder?

Why Instagram? Why Facebook? Its just one those apps/social media forms one “just has to try”

Did you do any research on social dating sites before you chose Tinder?


Do you have more than ONE social dating site on your phone?


What do you want out of Tinder (choose one & delete the other. Please elaborate if you choose “serious dating”)?

I have chosen not to choose any of the options as I feel they are a bit restricted. What I aim to  “gain” from tinder is validation of a preconceived idea of how females (generalizing here) behave with this app

How long have you been on the Tinder scene?

Roughly 7-8 months (I think)

The world we live in is shallow and everything is based on what people see, or hear; so what makes you swipe left or right?

One can only swipe left or right based on what is provided so I swipe to what I see and whit I read (captions). Tinder is a “shallow” app

How do you think Tinder will help you in locating that special someone?

I don’t believe that tinder will help me locate that “special someone”. There are far too many options at ones disposal and if I were to believe that tinder could do such a thing it would lead me into thinking “what if the next one is the one?”

 How do you “approach” someone on Tinder? Are you a pick up line kinda guy or are you a straight shooter?

I try to approach someone if I was meeting them in person…so subtle things like, ask how that person is doing? How their day was, where they are from and if I sense there’s a genuine interest from this person, an effort is then attempted to keep in regular contact with this person

Have you actually ever met someone outside of Tinder?

No I have not

What’s easier? Swiping right or an actual face to face with a beauty across the bar?

Swiping right


Stay tuned for The Minder Experiment | Guy Two


Mommy Behind The Blog |Cindy Alfino

This is the VERY FIRST post in this new series…….Thanx to Cindy Alfino for being the first Mommy ; I had such a good laugh 🙂


What is your name?  Cindy Alfino although I don’t seem to hear that nearly as much as I hear, “Mom! Mommy! Moooooom!”

How do you identify yourself?  I’m a mother, wife, daughter, sister, business owner, yoga novice, gym goer, series addict, reader, moth hater, Nik Nak lover and a soon to be Aunty.

How many kids do you have? Ages? Girl? Boy?  I have three kids – two girls and a boy.  Kyla is 6 years old (Kyla’s Birth Story), Riya-Ray is 5 years old (Riya -Ray’s Birth Story)  (there’s only a year and two week gap between them) and Knox is about to turn 3 in September (we share a birthday).  (Knox’s Birth Story)

Are you married/single?  I met Seth way back when I was 16 (How They Met), we dated for a couple of years and got married when I was 20(How They Got Married).  Despite the odds, we’re still going strong 8 years and 3 kids later.

Stay at home mom or fulltime employed?  I’ve managed to hit the sweet spot by doing a bit of both.  I work from around 8.30 (after I’ve dropped them off at school) and come home around 2pm most days to be able to cart them to ballet or playdates and do homework.

When did you start blogging?  Back in 2010.  But really only started taking it “seriously” in around 2013.

Why did you start blogging?  After I had my first baby and then shockingly my second baby so shortly thereafter I felt so alone.  None of my friends had kids and I just felt like no one knew what I was going through.  So I started writing to reach out to others that may also be in that position.  Since then it’s evolved a lot, but in essence, that’s still what I want to do – connect to other women, especially other moms to let them know they are not alone in this muddy world of parenting.

Do you do any sponsored posts?  I do the occasional sponsored post when I feel like my readers would actually want to read about it.  No matter what it is, I really try very hard to still make it personal and worth reading, even if you’re not interested in the specific topic of the post.

Competitions?  We do a fair amount of giveaways.  Through the blog I have been able to experience many things, and it brings me such joy to pass those experiences on to my readers too.

What is your blog about?   At the root of it you will always find an undercurrent of “parenting” to my blog and content.  But we’re about more than just explosive nappies and burp cloths.  We have many interests as a family and you will find many of them popping up on the blog.  This includes kids fashion, travelling in and around South Africa, tattoos, what it’s like being in a mixed race family, kids crafts, themed parties and real life, honest posts about being a mother.

What do you love about being a mommy blogger?  There is so much to love.  I think the main thing, besides having a record of our life to look back on, is that I get to connect with other moms.  Hearing from other moms about how my words have helped them through something is something that makes it all worth it.

As a mother, what is in your bag, like RIGHT NOW?  We’d probably have better luck with what’s NOT in my bag.  OK, here goes.  My wallet, my ID book, about 5 different lip products – no wait, after counting there is 10 different lip products, a pack of Strepsils, a business card holder, hand cream, a bottle of my concealer that I need to go to Mac to replace, eye drops, 3 pens, 4 glittery kids bracelets, 2 acorns, 5 Stickees, 6 hair ties – all broken, a pack of mints that managed to open and disperse themselves all over the bottom of my bag, a kids badge, 10 mints, a stray red ribbon and a handful of unidentifiable crap.  I think I need to clean out my bag.

What are the struggles you face with being a mommy blogger?  There aren’t many really.  I guess the main thing is protecting our privacy by making sure we don’t give out any information about the kids school, where we live etc.  And sharing too much that my kids will hate me for when they’re older.

Three things you can’t live without?  Um, make up (specifically foundation, bronzer, mascara and eye brow pencil), my phone (it has everything in it – including the diary for all 5 of us) and Nik Naks.

What’s a normal day like for you?  It starts with me wishing that I could sleep in a bit longer, followed by pushing it till the very last second to get out of bed.  Then there’s a mad rush to get the kids dressed, fed, brushed and ready for school.  The school run and then traffic on the way to work.  Working.  Leaving in a rush to get to my kids on time.  Taking them home.  Referring a hundred fights, making supper, doing homework, eating supper, bathing kids, putting them to sleep and then Seth and I finally relax on the couch and watch series.

Alone time? Do you even know what that is?  Driving in the car to and from work alone, counts as me time right?  For a very long I didn’t know what that was, and when I did, I felt guilty for having it.  But now I realise how important it is and while it’s not very often, I do value that little gap.

Words of wisdom?  Gosh. Uh, I’m not very good with advice.  I guess the rule I stick by is not to sweat the small stuff.  No use getting upset that they weren’t in bed and sleeping at exactly 7.15pm or freaking out about a messy room etc.  Kids are kids and you’ll drive yourself freaking nuts if you don’t accept that.

Goals for 2016?  Keep producing relatable content.  If that means we gain more readers that’s great!

What’s your favourite activity to do with your child/children?  We enjoy a pizza and movie night when we can (usually Friday nights), but I really enjoy watching them learn new things.  So going with them to see their very first movie, or the suspense of a theatre production, or walking around a new town, or trying new flavours of ice cream.  That kind of thing.

Where did you grow up?  Cape Town – born and bred.  In fact, barring a short hockey tour to Namibia and a honeymoon in Durban, I’ve never been anywhere else.

How did you come up with your blog name?  It’s one of the hardest things to do and we were stuck for a long time.  Originally it was 3 girls, 2 dogs and 1 guy, but then we had Knox and changed it.  We went with the literal, because it kind of sums up exactly what it’s all about.

Tell us something that NO ONE else knows about you?  I’m not sure that there’s anything that NO ONE knows – I tell just about everything.  But one time (shortly after I got my drivers license) I was pulling out of a parking bay in reverse.  Now usually, you wait till you’re basically all the way out before you start turning the steering wheel to point the car in the direction to be able to drive.  Not me.  I was still so nervous every time that I drove that I started turning the wheel like half way out the parking bay.  Obviously this meant that the front of my car turned into the bakkie next to me.  Undeterred I kept going, which resulted in the bakkie actually lifting up a bit.  At that point I realised that maybe I was being a chop and should probably go and hand in my drivers license at the nearest traffic office.  The good news is that I managed to get out of the parking spot eventually – been scared of parking ever since haha.

And lastly, tell us how becoming a mother has changed you……..  How hasn’t it changed me?  Seriously, it’s changed the way I think, what I do, how I act.  It’s quite something having to be someones role model and having someone to love even more than yourself.

The beautiful Cindy Alfino & her family

Cindy Alfino & The Family

Cindy’s Social Media Links…….because I know you want to follow her #stalker #stalkeralert








The Finder Experiment: Megan Eckert

That’s Fin-der, NOT Find-her. Get it? Or do I have to break it down for you?!

Today, we feature the beautiful Megan Eckert.

She is 28 years old. Employed fulltime and still single, as a pringle 🙂

I’ve sent her a few questions and below are her answers 🙂  ENJOY!!!!!!!!



What kind of phone do you have?

Samsung Galaxy S6 Edge

Have you ever been married?


If you have answered NO to the above, what are your views on marriage?

100% for marriage.

What do you do in your free time?

Go to the driving range. Gym. Read. Watch tv. Visit friends. Take random drives.

How would you describe your personality?

Bubbly & outgoing. Some would even say a little weird.

What is your biggest flaw?

That I trust too easily so I land up getting hurt a lot

Are you a parent?


Now, the FINDER questions;

Why Tinder?

Started off as an experiment and to see what all the fuss was about, landed up using at as a dating site

Did you do any research on social dating sites before you chose Tinder?

Not really. I never used to be one for internet dating until recently.

Do you have more than ONE social dating site on your phone?


What do you want out of Tinder?

Serious dating – It can sometimes be tough meeting people in the ‘real world’ so using tinder as a way of meeting people that could potentially lead to something more. I’m not getting any younger.

How long have you been on the Tinder scene?

Almost 2 years

The world we live in is shallow and everything is based on what people see, or hear; so what makes you swipe left or right?

For me, a lot of the time it isn’t whats based on what they look like but what they have to say about themselves.

How do you think Tinder will help you in locating that special someone?

I’ve met more people in the last 2 years because of Tinder than I have in the last 10 years I have been out of school. So its just about getting myself out there and meeting new people.

How do you “approach” someone on Tinder? Do you initiate first contact via a message or do you let them come to you?

It depends, most of the time I let them come to me but there have been a few where I have initiated first contact

Have you actually ever met someone outside of Tinder?

Yes. One of my closest friends is from tinder.

What’s easier? Swiping right or an actual face to face with a handsome dude across the bar?

Swiping right is definitely easier. Better though? Definitely not.


She’s single. As a pringle. Want to meet this beautiful individual? Comment below & SUPERbsusyMOM 2.0 will let her know 🙂

Megan Eckert



250ml sugar

125g butter/margarine

Pinch of salt

5ml bicarbonate of soda

65ml water

500ml cake flour

3 bananas, peeled and mashed

7,5ml of baking powder

2 eggs


Preheat oven to 180C.

Cream the butter and sugar together.

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Add the mashed bananas to the mixture.

Add the eggs in, one by one and beating after every addition.

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Sift the flour and salt into the mixture.

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Dissolve the bicarbonate of soda in the water and with baking powder, add to mixture.

Pour into bread tin and bake at 180C for 45 minutes. Turn out onto wire rack and allow to cool for 10 minutes before cutting

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