Red Cross 16 Days of Activism Story Six | Jade

 

3-year-old Jade* was staying at her mother’s boyfriend’s house. Sometime during the night, little Jade wet her bed. In most households, this would be met with a gentle reminder from a parent. The child would be reminded that it’s ok, it happens, it is not a big deal. The sheets would be changed and life would go on. But Jade did not come from “most” households. Jade came from a household were violence inescapable and for Jade, what happened next could only be described as an avalanche of abuse.

Jade’s mother’s boyfriend –  the perpetrator – proceeded to punish her while her mother watched helplessly on the side. It was reported that he allegedly covered her mouth with Sellotape, slapped her, pulled her by her hair and used her t-shirt to hang her little body on hook behind the door. Jade’s mother stated that she was unable to protect little Jade as her boyfriend had repeatedly kicked her in the stomach.

After the violence stopped, the perpetrator bathed Jade and reconciled with her mother.

The following day, Jade’s mother left her in the care of the perpetrator and when she returned home, Jade was once again in the bath with fresh bruises covering her tiny body. Jade was not walking properly and her mother noticed that there was sand in her ears. The perpetrator said that Jade had fell in the backyard. Jade’s mother called the police and Jade was brought into the Hospital. Doctors at the Red Cross War Memorial Children’s Hospital found evidence of physical and sexual abuse.

Jade been removed from the care of both her biological parents and the perpetrator and put in a place of safety.

* YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW HER NAME TO KNOW THAT SHE DESERVED A CHILDHOOD

Red Cross 16 Days of Activism Story Five | Iman

7-year-old Iman* was outside her home, doing what children do best: playing. After a short while of hearing nothing from her, her parents realised that she was missing, Iman had been kidnapped. A search ensued. A member of the community noted that she had seen little Iman walking away from her home with a man. The two had walked in the direction of the nearby grave yard.

Iman’s parents, along with community members rushed to the graveyard. Iman was found but it was clear that she had been raped.

Iman was brought to the Trauma Unit at the Red Cross War Memorial Children’s Hospital and the child protection office was called. After hours and hours of therapy, Iman was finally able to identify perpetrator.

Police arrested the man and after criminal court proceedings he was found guilty and sentenced to 18 years imprisonment.

Once the child protection investigations were complete, Iman was put back into the care of her parents. She continues to experience severe Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. The psychological scars from this sexual assault continue to affect her behaviour and schooling three years later.

* YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW HER NAME TO KNOW THAT SHE DESERVED A CHILDHOOD

Why I Use EarthSap & Why You Should Too

For awhile now, I have been using a brand called EarthSap. It is a brand and product that I stand firmly behind because of the smell and the “stay”

What I mean by the “stay” is that alot of the products one uses now adays, their smell or stay of smell does not last very long and when you’re done uses the product as intended, it does not bode very well in the long run.

What do I love about EarthSap products?

  • They are Natural
  • They are Vegan
  • They are Proudly South African (I 100% back Proudly SA brands)
  • They are Not Tested On Animals (hurray for cruelty free!)
  • They do not use dyes , synthetic fragrances or SLES/SSL
  • They do not contain Artificial preservatives, phosphates ,petrochemicals , chlorine or bleach
  • They are 100% biodegradable

I have been using their body wash whilst showering and I am inlove with the smell and how long it’s kept me. It’s been under 2 months now and my bottle is still 3 quarters full #amazing

The other product that I am using is their laundry powder and at first I was skeptical because how was this environmentally friendly product suppose to keep my clothes clean and make me happy? Well, hot damn, it did!

Next time you do a load of laundry, smell your clothing and I can guarantee you, it will smell like nothing! With EarthSap, your clothing comes out smelling like a babies fart; if baby fart smelt like flowers and happiness.

The last product of the expansive range that I had the privilege of trying out was the concentrated cleaner. Not going to lie, thought it was sort of like a Handy Andy; kinda disappointed when I squirted it out and it was more of a clear liquid. And then my disappointment slowly creeped back in because it is FUCKING AMAZIN! I’m not sure if you of you know but I have the most disgusting black ring around the bath. EarthSap Concentrated Cleaner did not take the black ring of death away, but it has slowly but surely helped it turn into a lighter grey ring of almost there sunshine.

All EarthSap products can be bought online at these retailers

Wellnesss Warehouse

Faithful to Nature

Essentially Natural

Organic Choice

Organica

 

Red Cross 16 Days of Activism Story Four | Funeka

Funeka* and Vuyo* were brought into the Trauma Unit at the Red Cross War Memorial Children’s Hospital by a family member. Overcome with a desperate need to end a vicious cycle of physical abuse, this family member disclosed a horrifying history of extreme physical, emotional and verbal abuse. Abuse suffered at the hands of their mother.

A physical examination of the siblings revealed no signs of recent abuse, but it was clear that both children were grappling with extreme Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.  14-year-old Funeka expressed feelings of deep loneliness and said she felt that there was no one that truly cared for her. 7-year-old Vuyo was emotionally withdrawn, hyper-vigilant and suffered from restless and broken sleep.

A police case has been opened and the family member who brought the sibling to the Hospital has made a statement. She described feeling incredibly angry and helpless but was desperate to help these two children get back to a place where they felt safe and loved.

In addition to continued therapy, a community-based social worker has also been tasked with investigating the care options for the children in the future. For now, they remain in this family members care.

* YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW THEIR NAMES TO KNOW THAT SHE DESERVED A CHILDHOOD

Red Cross 16 Days of Activism Story Three | Caitlyn

Caitlyn* is a 4-month-old baby girl. While most children her age are cuddled close to their mother’s chests in a solid bubble of love, Caitlyn’s reality is violently different.

Caitlyn was admitted to the Trauma Unit at the Red Cross War Memorial Children’s Hospital after she was raped by an adult male who was known to her family. Caitlyn’s case was sent to the child protection office and an investigation began.

Caitlyn’s parents revealed that they were sleeping their home – a wendy house – when a man known to the family, climbed through the window and abducted Caitlyn and another 6-year-old boy that was also asleep in the room at the time. The adult male raped both Caitlyn and the 6-year-old boy he had kidnapped with Caitlyn.

A police case was opened and the perpetrator was arrested. After criminal court proceedings, he was found guilty and sentenced to 20 years imprisonment. Caitlyn was removed from her parents care and put in a place of safety. Caitlyn’s parents were under the influence of alcohol at the time of her abduction. After just 4 short months in this world, she has had to face more violence than most of us face in a lifetime.

* YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW HER NAME TO KNOW THAT SHE DESERVED A CHILDHOOD

Red Cross 16 Days of Activism Story Two | Akhona

Akhona* was admitted to Red Cross War Memorial Children’s Hospital after she was raped by her uncle.

Akhona’s mother had left her in the care of her uncle, trusting that as a family member, he would have her best interests at heart. Sadly, this was not the case. After the child protection office at the Hospital got involved, an investigation started and a police case was opened.

The uncle was arrested and confessed to the crime. He has since been sentenced to 20 years imprisonment.

Akhona was discharged back into her mother’s care and continues to experience severe Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder including inappropriate sexual behaviour. Akhona’s mother has slipped into a manic-depressive state. After Akhona’s rape she attempted to commit suicide. Through hours of therapy it was revealed that she too is a rape survivor, having lived through chronic sexual abuse at the hands of her grandfather 25 years ago.

Akhona’s story is an example of how pervasive sexual violence in our society can be.

* YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW HER NAME TO KNOW THAT SHE DESERVED A CHILDHOOD

 

 

Red Cross 16 Days of Activism Story One | Alexander

 

A 10 year old boy was admitted to the hospital with skull fractures and bleeding on the brain after were referred for counselling. The patient was discharged back into the care of the mother after the child protection investigation was concluded. The father was granted bail even though the social worker he disclosed being physically assaulted by his father. After a social work investigation, a long standing history of domestic violence was reported.

The mother attempted on multiple times to leave the abusive relationship but always returned after the father apologised. A police case was opened the father was arrested. Mother and the children wrote to court to oppose bail. The mother works to support her children. The father has been given specific bail conditions to stay away from the family home and from his wife and children.

The mother and children are very fearful. The social workers provide monitoring but have limited resources.

* YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW HER NAME TO KNOW THAT SHE DESERVED A CHILDHOOD

Happy Birthday To Me

I have the most amazing people in my life! I have reached a happier and deeper understanding of my life and it is lifechanging.  I do not allow many people into the world of me because the world of me is not for everyone, sometimes it’s not even for me. 

BUT

The few that are apart of my life, make everything worthwhile.  From the down moments to the up moments.  To the everything inbetween. Like being dunked into a pool unawares, the appreciativeness has just enveloped me and I am inlove. 

With love

With you

With the guys and girls in my life 

Appreciative

Overwhelmed

I really do have the best people in my life.  They make the 9 – 5 just a little easier

a ‘huh’ post

Not all the people in your life are good for you 

Depending on how well you know yourself and well you can read people,  most of them will end up being bad for you 

That’s my life 

It has been filled with a whole lot of bad people 

Good for awhile

Had me blinded but longterm they ended up being bad for me 

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I am an open book, have never had a problem telling people my whole life story; because if you don’t listen,  who will? 

That’s the problem 

People don’t open up anymore.  We hide behind our screens and fake smiles.  People don’t get to know you.  Your personality.  Your thoughts,  because all we are a social media junkies. 

Every meal and experience posted online for the likes and hearts.  For the approval of Johnny from Bishop Lavis.  Rather than living in the moment and soaking up life, we end up with our heads down, face illuminated or head up and after the 100th pout post a “having so much fun #livingthebestlife”  selfie

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Instead of living our best life we prip and prep for these lives we live online

Keeping up appearances 

How’s your bank account doing boo? 

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If you have made it to the end of this post, thank you

This was meant to be something else, I got distracted and there was no way to turn it around to the positive post it was meant to be 

I guess the post this was meant to be,  the positive post, will happen tomorrow 

Cherubs Eco Friendly Bubble Bath 

Recently we recieved an Ella Elephant Cherubs Bubble Bath (*retailing at R50) press drop from FreeBees PR & Marketing.


Cherubs, one of South Africa’s most established and trusted baby brands has launched into the Kiddies Bath category with fruity and fun Cherubs Kiddies Bubble Bath!

Cherubs understands care by introducing Cherubs Bubbles a dermatologically endorsed, 2 in 1 wash & foam.

These bubbles come in a value-offering 2 litre bottle with sturdy handles for mom. Kiddies will have tons of Bathtime fun while getting clean in the mild and gentle bubble bath.

Eco-friendly, and lovingly made in South Africa, Cherubs is proud to bring another innovative product to parents, making lives easier, every day.